Jesus, Take the Wheek—but I am right here with the map just in case.
Goal:
Expose the spiritual root of control not as a personality trait, but a form of unbelief—and call women to the terrifying freedom of true surrender.
🧠 Concept:
Christian women are often praised for being “put together,” “detail-oriented,” “protective,” and “disciplined.” But what if that’s just holy-sounding code for a life that’s trying to micromanage outcomes God never asked us to manage?
Control becomes:
Our substitute for trust
Our armor against uncertainty
Our strategy for avoiding dependency
But the truth? Control is a false god that demands everything and gives nothing back.
📚 Outline
1. 🎭 Control Wears a Christian Mask
“I’m not controlling—I’m just really responsible.”
Talk about how control is often rewarded in churches: the woman who gets it done, never drops the ball, leads the Bible study, brings the snacks, and texts the prayer chain.
But ask: what’s going on underneath?
Bring in examples of biblical women who were tempted to take control (Eve, Sarah, Martha)
2. 🧨 The Hidden Fear That Drives It
“If I don’t hold it together, everything will fall apart.”
Explore the fear behind control: fear of disappointment, abandonment, disaster, being exposed.
Name the real belief: “God won’t come through unless I make it happen.”
Tie-in: Isaiah 30:15 – “In repentance and rest is your salvation… but you would have none of it.”
3. 🔄 The Illusion of Safety
“Control doesn’t protect us. It just isolates us.”
We think control will give us peace, but it just gives us pressure.
Talk about how it affects relationships: people don’t feel trusted, and we end up lonely or bitter when others don’t meet our expectations.
Tie-in: Proverbs 3:5–6 – “Trust in the Lord with all your heart…”
4. 💣 When God Breaks Your Grip
“God loves you too much to let your idols succeed.”
Testimonies or biblical stories of God dismantling people’s illusions of control (think Jonah, Job, Peter).
What feels like a disaster may actually be God setting us free.
Invite readers to consider: Where might God be inviting you to loosen your grip—even if it hurts?
5. 🕊️ Surrender as a Strategy
“Surrender isn’t giving up—it’s getting out of the way.”
Redefine surrender not as laziness or apathy but as strategic obedience.
Jesus in the garden didn’t say, “Your will be done” with passivity—He said it with purposeful trust.
Practical steps: fasting from control behaviors, praying honest prayers, inviting others into the process
🙌 Conclusion: You Don’t Need the Map if You Trust the Guide
“Maybe God doesn’t want your plan. Maybe He wants your permission to wreck it and rebuild something better.”
Reflect on how much energy control has cost us—and how little peace it’s offered.
Offer a bold prayer of surrender.
Link to a TBM study or resource on discernment, trust, or obedience.
